Real Resolutions for Moms: Part Seven

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"When normal childhood mishaps occur, I will remember that although difficult, it is easier to remove grape juice from off-white carpet than to erase harsh and unloving words hurled at a child whose chubby little fingers have failed her, for by this my children will see a God who understands when our best efforts fall short."

How often in a day am I guilty of this? But how I didn't even realize it.

I was recently sitting in a MOPS meeting, listening to a Dad's panel talk about their views on parenting and marriage. When one of the guys said something that I'll never forget. He quoted the scripture from Ephesians 6:4--
"Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord."
He talked about how disciplining our children for mistakes is contrary to God's word. Those are teachable moments, whether it be to teach about sitting at the table with that grape juice or teaching God's mercy in those situations. If we're not showing our kids what we expect of them, how can we fault them?

Big Boy's favorite movie right now is Veggie Tale's Jonah. I love the music on that video. The lesson focuses on God giving second chances. Jonah made a mistake and yet in God's mercy he was spared. If Jonah can run away from God, how much more mercy can we extend to our children when they small mistakes in the light of eternity?

One of the things that my husband and I believe is important to pass on to our children is their inability to accomplish anything outside of God's will and provision. With our belief, how can we not also teach them of a God who accepts us "when our best efforts fall short?"

"Lord, help me to catch my tongue when my children make mistakes. Help me to turn away from sharp words, angry tones, and rough manners. Remind me that they are only young for a time, and that things are fixable, clothes are washable, and that's what nap time is for. Show me the great mercy you've given me so that I may in turn lavish more upon them."